When you grow up and dream of getting married, you dream of having a wonderful wedding and marrying a handsome Christian man who absolutely adores you. You may have even played or practiced this a few times on the playground— I know that I did! We even used toilet paper for my pretend wedding veil.
I dreamed of having a gorgeous Cinderella type wedding dress. What I didn’t ever really dream about was doing laundry. I mean, at least I am not doing it like Cinderella or my great-great grandmother. I am so very thankful for modern day conveniences! But let’s be real friends— when you’re daydreaming of Prince Charming, doing the laundry just doesn’t come to mind, right?
Enter real life and the real world and laundry! Sometimes I feel it is the bane of my existence. I can’t ever keep the laundry basket empty. I have tried and tried. Is there anyone out there who actually likes to do laundry? Please don’t say yes, because I don’t know if we could be friends. (Just kidding, of course we could be friends!) I have been wishing for a little laundry fairy the entire 22 years I have been married. She still hasn’t come yet. It’s kind of rude, really.
Let me back up and explain. The laundry basket is like the never-ending breadsticks at the Olive Garden. It. Never. Ends. Never! Also, in our house, it seems like the washer or dryer eats all the socks. I have looked for them. They must have disappeared into the twilight zone or something. My dryer is the Cookie Monster of socks.
The washer or dryer also seems to have major meltdowns or malfunctions at the worst possible times— like oh, say right in the middle of my children having a stomach virus. Then there is the putting away of the laundry. That brings me back to wishing there was a little laundry fairy who had a little wand that magically put the laundry up. Either that or I want disposable clothes. Who can relate?! Yes, I’m just joking, but the idea does kind of sound nice. For a minute. Really nice, especially for socks— who wants to go into business with me? We could market disposable socks at least!
Please don’t think I am ungrateful for my modern day conveniences or my clothes or all the things. I am very grateful! I am just telling you something that I struggle with on a daily basis. I can choose to have a bad attitude about it, or I can determine to have a good attitude, see the blessings that I have, and laugh through the tears…I mean my mistakes. I am being authentic, and opening up about an area I genuinely need help with. I am hoping that someone out there in blog-land will relate, and we can become accountability partners.
Here is my current handle on things. Every morning I put in a load of towels and washcloths. When that gets done, I usually put in a load of laundry. If needed, I will do another load. Then in the evenings, I will do what I call “onesies.” Yes, I’m probably the only person in the world who calls them that. These are items that need to be washed alone and hung up to dry. Right before bed, I will then do another load of towels and washcloths. This plan doesn’t allow me to get all of my laundry caught up during the day. You would think by the amount of dirty laundry I have that 46 people live in my house and that 253 people take showers in my house a day— but it’s just 5 humans and 1 dog. That is all. Well the dog doesn’t take a shower everyday, but you wouldn’t know that by the amount of laundry.
As I am looking for all the sock pairs, I am so very grateful to have my family to do laundry for, my home to shelter us, and the washer and dryer to do the laundry instead of doing laundry by hand. I am so very thankful for all the many blessings of life that I have and am reminded to keep thanking God for each and every blessing.
What I have learned about my laundry woes is that I need to think of the people in places I have met that don’t have shelter, food, healthcare and clothes. I have watched them do their activities of daily life that included washing clothes by hand, and I am reminded of incredible women taking care of their families with very little and how efficiently they did so.
“Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with all your might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave whither thou goest.” -Ecclesiastes 9:10
This is a gentle reminder to me that it doesn’t matter if I don’t find all the matching pairs of socks. From now on, I will probably just buy all of the same kinds of socks— problem solved. But seriously, I will determine to have a better attitude about putting up the laundry (Ecclesiastes 9:10). My goal here is to remember the attitude in which I perform this work, to be thankful for my blessings, and to try to do this work to the best of my abilities. My big takeaway will be to remember that when I have 44,323 things to do that day that everything is going to be okay! I shouldn’t look at a task that I have been given to do with drudgery, but I should rather find joy in it. How you find joy is really up to you. It is a mindset. You can choose.
So, sisters, I’m going to ask for help here! I’m going to choose to have a good mindset but find a better way. I’m humble enough to know I may not know what I’m doing. I’m smart enough to know there are so many others out there who know how to do things better than me. So, fellow sisters-in-Christ, submit to me your laundry secrets! Show me your wise secrets! I will try them and either nail it or fail it and report back here! Please be my virtual laundry fairy!
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine; but a broken spirit drieth the bones.” -Proverbs 17:22